Q: I like hooking up, but every time I do it, it never turns into a relationship. I worry that the fact that I hook up all the time, but never have a boyfriend, makes me look like a slut. Even though hooking up is fun, should I stop because it's never going to turn into anything meaningful?

A: You mean you aren't a slut? I thought everyone who hooked up was a slut. Just kidding. If you're worried about what other people think, don't be. Other people don't matter. Your opinion is the only one that counts.

But I don't think that's the only issue here. First and foremost, let's get one thing straight-a hook-up isn't the place to start a relationship. So if that's what you're hoping for in your intimate escapades, stop. You said that you like hooking up, but what is it you like? You may not know this, but you're allowed to enjoy sex outside of a relationship without being termed a slut. In fact, the term slut gets tossed around to denigrate women. Forget that word. You like sex? Then have it. And even though this isn't the issue, guys like women who like sex.

However, you shouldn't have sex just to get and keep a man. You should have sex only because you want to. Women have sex drives; that doesn't make them sluts-it makes them human. Be honest with yourself. Is hooking up less about sexual satisfaction for you and more about landing a man? If that's the case, darlin', you've got some work to do.

First of all, remind yourself that you are a sexual being and that you're allowed to enjoy sex. But most importantly, make sure you're hooking up for the right reasons, whatever they might be for you. A hook-up can bring the sexual satisfaction you're looking for, as long as you're not expecting an engagement ring, or even a "hello," the morning after. And finally, respect yourself, your body, your desires and your health. And I almost forgot-have fun!

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